Fashion Advice for the NIPT Generation

This morning, completely oblivious to the up-coming A World without Down’s Syndrome documentary, Freddie chose to wear his Christmas jumper. I told him he could choose whatever he wanted, and he chose that.

It’s not what I would have chosen. I chose a short-sleeved top and harem pants I bought for the beach. But then, Freddie is a little boy with not much meat on his bones who doesn’t care what anyone thinks of the pattern on his knitwear, and I am a woman of ‘a certain age’ with plenty of insulation. I spent the day ironing, Freddie sat playing on his iPad, or looking at books. We were both comfortable and happy with our choice.

 

People will choose different outfits even when experiencing the same weather, according to their individual needs and tolerances.

 

Freddie was fully aware that it was a Christmas jumper. He was fully aware that Christmas is in December, and today is only the 5th October. Before we decided on our clothes we had looked out of the window to see what the weather was like, and talked about how it might change later, what was usual for Autumn, and even about how it has been rather warm lately. If we’d been planning to go out, I’d have looked at the weather app on my phone. So, we each had lots of information to help us make our choice. In other words, we made an informed choice.

 

When someone makes an informed choice, they are much more likely to make the right choice for them.

 

 

If, however, I did not consider him able to make an appropriate choice, and considered the Christmas jumper inappropriate, then I might have hidden it at the bottom of the laundry basket from the beginning of January until the end of November. Or perhaps kept the curtains closed, told him it was usually still quite warm in October, so he should choose a t-shirt or he’d get too hot. If he still insisted on wearing it I could keep asking him if he was sure he didn’t want to choose a different jumper. But that wouldn’t have been a real choice.

 

A prescriptive choice is no choice at all.

 

One of the dictionary definitions of choice is: ‘alternative action, or possibility’. Choice, by definition, involves alternatives.

 

A choice in which we are steered towards, or away from, one of the alternatives is not really a choice.

 

Some people really do not want a Christmas jumper. When they go shopping for clothes, they choose not to buy a Christmas jumper. Others, though, are just happy to be getting a jumper, they don’t mind if it’s a Christmas jumper, they’ll absolutely love it, like Freddie loves his.

So, doctors and midwives, if a patient comes to you bearing a Christmas jumper, don’t assume they don’t really want it and arrange for it to be thrown in the bin, without asking them if that’s actually what they want. Don’t ask repeatedly: ‘Are you sure you want that jumper?’ A Christmas jumper is just as much a jumper as any other; it’s knitted, it has sleeves, a hole for the neck, and it’ll keep you warm – it’s just a bit more colourful.

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5 thoughts on “Fashion Advice for the NIPT Generation

  1. OMG I LOVE this post! Perfect analogy and I’m totally with you. Let’s have balanced information given out by the healthcare professionals and no opinions, unless they are opinions from either side. And even then, if offered, they should be given with the proviso that there are likely to be a whole range of opinions on either side – because surely anyone could then see opinions don’t give the true picture?! Sorry if that makes no sense, I’m tired today! 😀

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