My existence is one that many people would reject as too dismal to contemplate – simply because it involves being the full-time stay-at-home mum of a child who has Down’s Syndrome: but I’m defiantly happy with my life (yes, I do mean defiantly).

You see, I’ve always wanted to be happy and so I’ve decided to be; happiness is a state of mind, not a circumstance.

I didn’t expect to become a mum again at the age of forty. When the doctor told me that my new baby had Down’s Syndrome I DID expect developmental delay and learning disability: I DID NOT expect a lively and inquisitive little boy with a well-developed sense of humour.

But that is who we got – Freddie: full of beans, full of mischief, affectionate and bright. Yes, bright – if bright means having an inquiring mind and being keen to learn; developmental delay and learning disability notwithstanding.

Something else I did not expect, after having a child with Down’s, was that I would become a graduate at the age of forty-eight (Creative Writing, First Class, with Honours, and taking the prize for Outstanding Acheivement), or that I would launch into a career as a freelance writer, which allows me to work from home, and when it suits me, so that I am always available to care for Freddie. I’ve written for as long as I can remember: even before I knew how to hold a pencil and form letters I made up stories in my head. The difference is that now I have the credentials to prove I’m reasonably competant at it.

Life has changed for the better in many ways since Freddie was born, and I would definitely number myself among the 79% of parents who report feeling MORE positive for having raised a child with Down’s Syndrome. So, if it’s martyrdom and misery you’re looking for, you’ve come to the wrong blog.

In The Odd Sock Diary I share my everyday experiences of being mum to Freddie, hoping to help dispel some of the misconceptions surrounding what a diagnosis of Down’s Syndrome means to family life. Because so far, life with an extra chromosome has been pretty … ‘normal’. I also share my writing life, too – which is almost certainly rather less normal.

The ‘odd sock’ of the title was inspired by a visual representation of the Karyotype for Down’s Syndrome – the chromosomes look like pairs of stripy socks – but on the 21st chromosome there are three socks to the pair. To be honest, I’m a bit of an odd sock myself, never quite matching up with anyone else. And I have the world’s biggest collection of unpaired hosiery stuffed in a bag in my airing cupboard. There’s even an odd number of people in our family – or perhaps you’d prefer me to say ‘a not-divisible-by-two number of people – for those offended by the word ‘odd’.

I do not pretend to be offering learned information or wise advice. I am not an expert on Down’s, or anything else. I leave that to the professionals.

This is only one woman’s story. As such it will not, can not, reflect everyone’s experience.



3 thoughts on “About

  1. Thank you for the introduction to Freddie. I found you via your comment on “I’m just like you, but maybe a little more tired.” I share your view on the post. I’m glad you posted your blog there. How old is Freddie?
    I am the mother to four children, and step-mother to another. I am a special needs mother to Hunter, our youngest at 3. Hunter is also terminally ill. You can follow Hunter at http://www.facebook.com/Hope4Hunter
    I just started my Blog, Rare Words. My mission is to provide hope, support and advocacy to those with rare diseases. http://www.hunt4acure.org/rare-words-3/
    I subscribed to your blog. I look forward to learning more about Freddie, and your family life with him.


    • I have three children, though the other too are much older ( I don’t usually tell anyone outside my close circle this, because he likes to decide who knows, but the eldest has Aspergers). I am sorry to hear that Hunter’s condition is terminal, but I feel sure, reading your comments, that the life he has is filled with love, joy, acceptance and compassion – and fun. I wish you all the best and will be following your journey via your blog.


    • Thank you for following my blog Kerry. However, my blog is now at hunt4acure.org If you would follow there, I would greatly appreciate it, as there will be no new content on the blog that you followed. Thank you!

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